I am 36, married and have a 5 year old son. I have had two serious relationships in my life, both with the same man. He is my best friend. Well, I have another best friend here in the city who is 26 and for sometime we have been intimate. I think I may be in love and my husband may be onto me. What should I do?
Dear Friend -
Do about what? This gobbet or lump of a question has me scratching my head. You make many a statement and steer clear of any real point. I could suggest a creative writing class. Indeed you are a master of disguises, but a romance novelist you are a not even a neophyte.
What does a five year old son have to do with your age? Are you trying to convince me you are a loving mother? It’s okay if you are and I have known many a lady who was a little loose with the goose and still, let me choose my words wisely, free with the love as it relates to the children or child as the case may be.
Two serious relationships in your life both with the same man? Are you now virtuous? It’s okay if you are as many an infamous romance began as a shy and awkward brush of the hand over a game of tennis between two childhood friends. Nothing comes to mind, but lets just take my word for it and you will since you are writing to me.
It sounds to me that you are describing a “Liaison.” A tryst or a rumble and a tumble in the sheets with your friend. You cannot confuse heat of the heart with indiscriminate passion of the parts with this younger man. Incidentally, do you know of a word that rhymes with “liaisons?”
It appears to me that you are not clear as to what you want out of love and life. Make no assumptions and my advice to you is when in doubt, treat this as a business decision. Think like a man. Many men when confronted with an executive type decision think with their heads and not with their hearts. That is why they make those hard-on decisions that we as women have come to rely upon when thrust into deep dark crevices that requires more thought. Where was forethought?
Raisons. Rhymes with Liaisons.
Ask Tammy Manners is a sought after woman and has been known to shoot from the hip as she pulls no punches. Her life purpose is to steer women off course and onto a path of celebratory and wanton love of passion of the arts and her treasures of the tongue are rare and beautiful gems indeed.